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Below is a written script that I want to present in animated form as an instructional video. The topic is psychology and child development. My target audience now is mainly parents looking for parenting advice, but I hope to expand to offer it to professional and academic audiences. I am open to sharing ideas with the freelancer about how to present the material and how to draw interesting characters and sequences. Please let me know if this suits you and your availability. Thank you. Vera Rabie (my picture) is a Doctor of Psychology. After closely examining families and their struggles for about 50 years and over 4 generations, she found the holy grail that psychology has been searching for over centuries. It’s called the Secret Of Love In Families or SOLIF psychology because it finally uncovers that there is secret love that floats around invisibly in every family (hearts dropping) This secret love is one of the most powerful forces in life and parents and children in every family are aware of it. They always feel it but shhhhhh - they never talk about it! So we begin with a family of 4 people - 2 parents and 2 children. Dr. Rabie found that two parents always have different styles of parenting. Both are equally important and the children need both of them. But they’re not the same at all. One of the parents is warm, gentle, accepting, easy-going and generally more emotionally available to the children. SOLIF psychology calls this the Emotional Parent. This parent is more ready and better prepared to become emotionally attached to the children simply by virtue of their own nature and personality. This Emotional parent could be either the mother or the father Many people believe that a woman should be the warmer, more gentle emotional parent because of her capability for childbearing and breastfeeding. But it's actually 50-50. About half of families have fathers as their Emotional Parent, and half of families have mothers as their Emotional Parent. The other parent is more strict, demanding, socially aware and organizes the life of the family. Sometimes, this parent might be more distant or detached. In SOLIF psychology, we call this parent the Structure and Support Parent. And again, it could be either the mother or the father. Both of these roles are equally important to the psychological health of the children. Now think about your own parents. Which one was your more easy-going, fun-loving and approachable parent, and which of your parents was more disciplinarian, organized and socially-minded? OR they could have been more detached and emotionally distant from the family. Now these two parents have their first child, As soon as the child is born, there’s an instant, invisible attraction or emotional attachment between the Emotional Parent and the new baby. The child is born with a natural instinct to seek out an adult caregiver to fill their need for warmth, affection and attention. It’s very unspoken and it happens naturally, spontaneously and organically, It just does and you can’t really interfere with it or make it happen the way you want. It’s as if there’s a magnetic pull or attraction between them, and the child and Emotional parent are drawn together And remember, this Parent might be either the mother or the father. Then you have a second child. Now both children are using their natural instinct to secure warmth, attention and affection for themselves. So, there is an inevitable struggle between the two children to secure these warm, loving feelings. Where will they reach out to find it? The secret is that the second child finds it in the same place where the first child originally discovered it - in that warmer, more tolerant and affectionate Emotional Parent. Now there’s a competition. It’s Sibling Rivalry and its goal is to WIN the attention and affection of that Emotional Parent. How will the WINNER of this desperate rivalry be decided? Who will WIN? Will it be the new baby with their cuteness, their need to be held close, and fed and cuddled all the time? Or will it be the older child who wins the rivalry because they already have an established attachment to the Emotional Parent? Besides, those two are already familiar with each other and have already been connected for some years. Well, the answer depends on the way the two children behave. If the new baby is docile, compliant and attractive and appeals to the EP, this new sibling may easily upstage the older one despite their already existing positive relationship. On the other hand it could be the older sibling, who may have been well behaved before, but turns into a monster and starts to make impossible demands, is unhappy with everything that happens and becomes difficult to handle? Or, it could be that the new baby is rambunctious, attention-seeking, whiny, unpleasant and difficult to please and now the older one will be sweet, mild-mannered and gentle ? Well, most parents naturally choose to praise and appreciate the behavior of whichever child is more docile, compliant, pleasant, smiles readily and is easy to raise. So the Emotional Parent bonds with the child who is more pleasant, easy-going and presents less of a problem to raise. And the two naturally come together in a secret love!!! Now here's the trick about the secret love................etc. etc.